Self Awareness – Knowing yourself comes in handy
Sharon Glassman – Yes – know yourself.
This sounds really silly, but your yeses are your yeses.
Like, going back to the story I told in the beginning about being tan and sitting at the kitchen table and making books and being like, this is what I do. This is what I do. So I think, I was so trained in an education system that I had to work towards someone else’s goal, get into the best university, get into the best graduate school, get into the most prestigious magazine. Blah, blah, bah. They turned out not to be my yeses.
My yeses are, be a conduit who hears people’s stories and tells them in the most heartfelt way and affects the most number of people that helps them get to their happy. That’s my yes.
It took me a long time to be able to say no to the false yes, and yes to the real yes. I think if you cut to the chase and go, I don’t really know much about what form this is going to take, but this I what I do. Then do it. It’s so much easier. The amount o things that I tried to do that weren’t things that I really wanted to do…
I got an article published in a big national magazine when I was still in journalism school. Oh yes, I got a fellowship to Germany. I ran away from the fellowship to go report a story in Cologne. And it was a great story; I sold it to Elle Magazine, blah, blah. Then I was published, but I was still terrified. And I was like, somebody help me, this isn’t’ what I want to do, can you make the processes nicer? And the editor was like, give another pitch, I’d be happy to talk to you. Otherwise I have no time. So I was like, okay, that’s the end of me with that.
Years later, I knew how to tell those stories. So it’s like, it was icky. It’s like, move on. It’s okay. I think chances are infinite. I think worry is sort of a limiting factor. So if you’re worrying, it’s not a yes. That would be one. Two would be, the past is the past. We all know that, but it really is. So it’s like, if only I could go to college again. That’s really not going to happen. I’m not going to be in 12th grade again, it’s okay. Would I have done it differently? Uh huh. Did I? No. Okay.
And also, how do you take those, not regrets, but things you would’ve done differently, and just package them into a better scenario now? It’s really doable. And you can bitch to your friends, it’s okay. Nobody is asking you to be happy dabby, it doesn’t work. Three, oh, this sounds so Boulder. Yoga. I hate to say it, but it’s awesome. Anything that I think can do that gives you the chance to be quiet and have a little daily struggle every single day and then leave it somewhere is great, because then you don’t have to struggle the rest of the day.
And I hated it. And now I can go on. I already did the thing I hated, so it’s fine. Anything that’s like that, quiet, words you knew in an encapsulated format, and then go on to the rest of your day. So struggle somewhere small every day, and then go on and be awesome for the rest of the day. Because you are awesome.